Archive for October, 2006
What has “stare” done for me?
What has the stare method done for me? Well, it’s created a bridge to the real world. It’s enabled me to gain real-world positive feedback that has served to re-program my belief-system - and in turn, allowed me to build my self-esteem and confidence.
Making an effort
The final stage in the stare process is Effort – or more accurately, making an effort. In most cases, I never need this step because my problem has been solved at either the “Analyze” or the “Is it reasonable?” stage.
For example:
I feel that I’m being stared at on a public bus. I raise my [...]
Is it reasonable?
After analyzing the social situation, I would have either concluded that the “threat” was real, or a figment of my over-active imagination. Most times it turned out to be false and I skipped a step, going straight to “Making an effort.”
However, if the threat was real (or perceived to be real), I continued on with [...]