Dating and social anxiety dont mix. Personally speaking, my anxiety was bad enough under the best of circumstances. By introducing the element of dating, my fear grew exponentially – it was enough to turn my world completely upside-down.
I havent talked much about dating and social anxiety disorder here because this is one area that, honestly, seemed unachievable. Though I have had a few girlfriends in the past, I relied entirely on chance to bring it all together. I couldnt consciously go out and make an effort to meet anyone because I knew how it would turn out.
Even today, after making some real progress with SA, I am very apprehensive to stick my neck out in the dating world. Why? Well, there is no quicker way to destroy the self-esteem and confidence that Ive worked so hard to achieve. I truly believe that one date could set me back years in my progress.
Is it worth the risk? Whats the alternative? Well, common sense tells me that I cant protect the progress that Ive made – and why would I want to anyway? The whole purpose in trying to better my life was to develop skills that would help me cope with society. It doesnt make much sense to have it and not use it.
I can also see a very lonely future unless I do something soon.
Im now closer to 40 than 30, and I doubt that things will magically become more favourable in the future. Im still relatively young, but the longer I wait, the worse things will get.
Its obvious that I cant simply wait for fate to create the ideal opportunity. If I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life, I need to start making an effort.
So where exactly does a shy person start in the dating world?