Comments on: Life is Not a One-way Street http://shyandquiet.com/2008/06/14/life-is-not-a-one-way-street/ Social Anxiety Disorder And Everyday Life Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:21:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Kirsten http://shyandquiet.com/2008/06/14/life-is-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-19574 Kirsten Wed, 25 Jun 2008 21:56:44 +0000 http://shyandquiet.com/?p=256#comment-19574 Thank-you all for sharing your experiences. Until I happened upon this site, I genuinely thought I was the only one in the world that felt this way (feeling rejected by others, socially isolated); I feel comforted by the fact that others struggle with this problem as well. I am only beginning to realize I am responsible for how others see me and if I want to have meaningful friendships, I must learn more "positive ways" of behaving. This of course, is hard to do and is something I have struggled with my whole life. Kim, I know how you feel. I am always wary of initiating social interations for fear that person will reject me. But in the end, if we choose not to engage in social interaction, we are missing out a real nice part of life. Regards! Thank-you all for sharing your experiences. Until I happened upon this site, I genuinely thought I was the only one in the world that felt this way (feeling rejected by others, socially isolated); I feel comforted by the fact that others struggle with this problem as well. I am only beginning to realize I am responsible for how others see me and if I want to have meaningful friendships, I must learn more “positive ways” of behaving. This of course, is hard to do and is something I have struggled with my whole life. Kim, I know how you feel. I am always wary of initiating social interations for fear that person will reject me. But in the end, if we choose not to engage in social interaction, we are missing out a real nice part of life. Regards!

]]> By: egn http://shyandquiet.com/2008/06/14/life-is-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-19409 egn Fri, 20 Jun 2008 02:03:37 +0000 http://shyandquiet.com/?p=256#comment-19409 Hi Drew, Like you, I used to both blame society for rejecting me and showing no interest in me, as well as feel that i was inherently unlikeable and bad in some way. And I have learned to not do those things as much anymore, which is great. I'm going through a period of rejection right now, which is hard. The first thing I feel when I am rejected is that of course it's my fault, and that there is something wrong with me. And I can really spiral down from there. To counteract, I'm writing out a list of great qualities about myself every day. Also things I am grateful for. It's amazing how this helps. We have to boost ourselves I think, as well as trying to think more realistically about other people and act in a friendly way. Anyway, I enjoy reading about your experiences as they are similar to mine. Cheers Hi Drew,
Like you, I used to both blame society for rejecting me and showing no interest in me, as well as feel that i was inherently unlikeable and bad in some way. And I have learned to not do those things as much anymore, which is great.
I’m going through a period of rejection right now, which is hard. The first thing I feel when I am rejected is that of course it’s my fault, and that there is something wrong with me. And I can really spiral down from there.
To counteract, I’m writing out a list of great qualities about myself every day. Also things I am grateful for. It’s amazing how this helps. We have to boost ourselves I think, as well as trying to think more realistically about other people and act in a friendly way.
Anyway, I enjoy reading about your experiences as they are similar to mine. Cheers

]]> By: anon http://shyandquiet.com/2008/06/14/life-is-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-19284 anon Sun, 15 Jun 2008 11:45:00 +0000 http://shyandquiet.com/?p=256#comment-19284 The problem will always be, I cant change what people think of me. Plus the fact alot of people i genuinely hate. Even so, i am a nice guy, its just not easy when alot of people are party addicts that need popularity to gain acceptance. What can i do!? The problem will always be, I cant change what people think of me. Plus the fact alot of people i genuinely hate.

Even so, i am a nice guy, its just not easy when alot of people are party addicts that need popularity to gain acceptance.

What can i do!?

]]> By: Kim http://shyandquiet.com/2008/06/14/life-is-not-a-one-way-street/#comment-19258 Kim Sat, 14 Jun 2008 21:00:34 +0000 http://shyandquiet.com/?p=256#comment-19258 I've often asked myself what's wrong with me, but really have only used the question to feel sorry for myself. I know I really do need to examine my behavior, my demeanor and how I interact with others. I imagine I do seem unfriendly and uninterested in when I'm simply afraid of other's reactions to me. Maybe I should post that same quote in my home. SA has made me so self-centered. But it all seems like such an uphill battle. How can I change something that seems like such an ingrained part of me? In my more optimistic moments I think if I can change just a little, I may reap enough benefits to escape a life of loneliness and depression. I look forward to reading this blog and it gives me some guidance in taking steps forward. I’ve often asked myself what’s wrong with me, but really have only used the question to feel sorry for myself. I know I really do need to examine my behavior, my demeanor and how I interact with others. I imagine I do seem unfriendly and uninterested in when I’m simply afraid of other’s reactions to me. Maybe I should post that same quote in my home. SA has made me so self-centered.
But it all seems like such an uphill battle. How can I change something that seems like such an ingrained part of me? In my more optimistic moments I think if I can change just a little, I may reap enough benefits to escape a life of loneliness and depression.
I look forward to reading this blog and it gives me some guidance in taking steps forward.

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