College was a tough time for me. Though I was sure that I’d be leaving all my troubles behind once my high school days were over, I was just kidding myself. Things didn’t improve much except for the fact that we were treated as adults now. Other than that, I was utterly alone. The only [...]
My last two entries are typical of the problems I encountered while trying to get along with people (groups) back then. Now, I’d be lying if I said that I have improved a great deal since; however, the gains I have made feel permanent.
What changed? Well, for one, my approach. After having zero success with [...]
In my last post I wrote about how awful it can feel to be intentionally isolated from a group for no apparent reason. I don’t know why this bothers me so much; I suppose being rejected by others is the final proof needed to backup my own “paranoid” suspicions. It’s one thing to suspect that [...]
In 1999/2000, I had a good paying job and actually owned a home for a few years. It seems like a lifetime ago, but I can still remember incidents from that period in my life like they happened yesterday. Back then, even though I was doing pretty well financially, I was still a full-blown basket-case [...]
Ok, so here is my own interpretation of the situation when it comes to likeability:
I’ve come to the conclusion that, whoever you are, you need to bring something to the table when it comes to social interaction, and in particular, the likeability factor. Simply being the nice guy, going through all the motions, and throwing [...]
Is it possible to boost your likeability factor by just being nicer to people? Well, my experience has been yes, and no. I’ve had limited success using this principle on its own, so I am convinced that there needs to be something more. What that missing ingredient is, remains as elusive as ever – in [...]
Likeability can be a complicated thing. Personally, there are times (not many, mind you) when everything just seems to click with me. The atmosphere feels right, I feel good, and my personality is on fire. My actions and words seem to bounce off everyone in a favorable manner, and that feedback, in turn, gives me [...]
So, what is your likeability factor?
I’m borrowing a term from a gentleman by the name of Tim Sanders. Tim has written a book called “The likeability factor”, and also has a website: http://www.timsanders.com/. I plan to read the book at some point; however reading a short intro from the site got me thinking about what [...]