Archive for the ‘Motivation’ Category
Social Anxiety Fatigue
Social anxiety fatigue is a real condition. Ok, maybe not medically speaking (or is it?), but I have experienced this phenomenon many times. For those of you that don’t know what I’m talking about, I’ll try to explain. Keep in mind, however, that this is just my own experience.
Beating social anxiety disorder takes determination
Beating social anxiety is my number one goal. Failure is simply not an option at this point. I’ve put too much time and effort into it. I refuse to let this slide like every other endeavour I’ve attempted in the past – and I’m not just talking about social anxiety.
So what’s changed? Well, to be [...]
Socializing - you must make an effort
Socializing is hard work – at least it is for a guy like me. Perhaps, one day, as I gain more experience, it won’t seem so daunting. But for now, each and every social encounter takes a tremendous effort. Yet, where would I be if I didn’t try?
Without making an effort, I’d never make any [...]
I swear, it felt like self-esteem!
There are numerous techniques, tips, tricks, and methods that I have tried throughout my life to deal with my social anxiety. Everything from professional therapy, to mail-order “miracle” cures. I have also developed a few coping techniques of my own through years of trial and error.
The conclusion I’ve drawn, after implementing many of these coping [...]
Motivation and enjoyment
Taking pleasure in the task at hand makes all the difference in the world. At least this is how it worked for me. Having a genuine interest in whatever I was working on, made learning easier, working more pleasurable, and increased the likelihood that I would follow through until completion.
This concept was nothing new. [...]
Motivation and results
I’m digressing a little into the area of motivation, goal-setting, faith and determination, because, without this, little can be accomplished in life – including efforts to combat my social anxiety.
I needed to:
-Have clear goals and the ability to stay focused.
-Have faith that things would progress and improve.
-Have a genuine interest in what I was doing, [...]
Less than perfect was just fine
Although many more steps were needed to complete difficult tasks and achieve goals, I didn’t mind. It wasn’t like extra work – actually, it was more enjoyable. I still had the tendency to demand perfection from myself, but I continued following the schedule I wanted, not what I felt I had to do.
Social anxiety and the need for perfectionism
Taking the so called “under achievers” route worked pretty well for me - I was getting more done in a day and I felt, generally, happier. Once I was able to get over my perfectionist attitude and allow certain things to go unfinished, I was good.
I was functioning in a world of grey. A [...]
Divide and conquer
To give you an idea of how the divide-by-two rule worked for me, I’ll use an example of something I dread every year: Taxes.
Sitting down and filling out my yearly tax forms is painful - I’m sure many can relate to this. In fact, it’s the one thing that is sure to get put on [...]
Less is more
The “divide-by-two” rule is not something new in the area of self-improvement – so the concept may be recognized under different names. This technique is something that I’ve worked on and customized to help with my own situation. The name is just something that came to me at the time.